I photographed twins portraits the other day. It was exquisite. I love twins photography. I delighted in these two week old babies, holding them, being with these two new lives, and watching closely each of their new movements, their first expressions, their relationship.
I’m a M.O.M. For those of you who aren’t “in the know”, that means Mothers of Multiples. It’s a special club and I am grateful for its inclusion.
My husband and I conceived Maxwell (Twin A) and Ava (Twin B) when their older brother was exactly one years old. Two years previous to that, almost to the day, I was told by the last of three top fertility doctors in Los Angeles that I would not be able to conceive a baby of my own. They were absolutely wrong. We conceived all three children naturally. What a turnaround.
Do you see why I am walking on air? I am living a beautiful dream. My beautiful babies are here, present in this world and blossoming before me. I am, also, privy to special lives of twins at my portrait studios, re-experiencing my own twins’ newborn stage through the twins photography I create at my studio.
One thing any mom of multiples will tell you is that there is an inherent sadness because you know that you are operating through complete exhaustion and enormous sleep deprivation and you can’t fully enjoy and bask in their newness- -there’s just too much to do. I remember looking down at my 2 week old twins at 3:00 a.m. and crying because I knew that my stress and exhaustion would make me remember so little about them at this very, very precious stage.
So parents of multiples have a special place in my heart. I know what they’re going through. I can empathize how the babies crying can drive their stress level up, but I recommend that we treasure those cries. I can let them know, standing where I am, that it speeds by. And more importantly, I can bring back the memories to them through my art. . . and truly from my heart.